Tuesday, 30 October 2012

Providing for Family

In our three years together, Mr Trifectagirl struggled to find work.  Mostly because what he did in the UK requires an extra qualification here that he didn't have (but had started studing towards). 

So I worked to financially supported our family while he stayed home and looked after J.  As much as he loved being with J, the fact that he wasn't providing for his family in the traditional sense both frustrated and depressed him.

After various issues with his superannuation fund, including them loosing the file, I finally recieved the money he'd had put away for his retirement a couple of weeks ago.

On October 26, 2012 Mr Trifectagirl made the ultimate provision for his family - he's given us a secure roof over our head. 

I am now mortgage free, which is a very bitter-sweet place to be. I was teary for a while once the reality hit and generally pretty flat for the day.   I don't like why I could pay it out, but am so very grateful that he left enough so that I could.


  1. What an amazing thing he was able to do for his family even after passing. Hugs to you and your son! I can't imagine what you're going through but am amazed at your strength.

  2. He gave J two very special gifts. The gift of himself in the time they had together and the gift of a secure home. I'm sure that's not all either and it's no wonder you miss him so much. Hugs to you.

  3. I can only imagine how bitter sweet that was. So happy you don't have to worry about a mortgage though.